36 questions
The 36 questions are a list of increasingly personal questions that two strangers answer in turn for about an hour to feel closer.
How 36 Questions Bring Strangers CloserEvery term in one plain sentence. How it works is in the 2-minute article behind it.
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Anxious attachment
Anxious attachment is a pattern of amplifying bids for closeness, formed when a caregiver responded warmly at some times and not at all at others.
Where Anxious Attachment Comes FromAttachment style
An attachment style is a habitual prediction of what happens when you get close to someone or show that you're hurting.
Can your attachment style change?Avoidant attachment
Avoidant attachment is a learned way of handling closeness in which a person switches off signals of distress instead of seeking comfort.
Why Avoidant People Pull AwayD
Dunbar's number
Dunbar's number is the estimate that a person can keep a stable social circle of about 150 people, with around five of them truly close.
How Many Friends Can You Have?E
Empathy gap
The empathy gap is the failure to imagine how strongly a state you're not in, such as hunger, anger or fear, will affect you or others.
What Is the Empathy Gap?F
Four Horsemen
The Four Horsemen are four habits that damage conflict conversations: criticizing the person, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling.
What Are the Four Horsemen of Conflict?H
Halo effect
The halo effect is a bias in which one noticeable trait colors how you judge all of a person's other qualities.
What Is the Halo EffectI
Identifiable victim effect
The identifiable victim effect is the tendency to help one specific person more readily than many, with willingness dropping as numbers grow.
How the identifiable victim effect worksL
Love bombing
Love bombing is showering someone with attention, gifts and plans for a shared future so fast that they feel in debt before they know the person.
How Love Bombing WorksP
Proximity effect
The proximity effect is the tendency to be drawn to the people we simply run into most often rather than to a rare match of personalities.
How the Proximity Effect Works in RelationshipsR
Romeo and Juliet effect
The Romeo and Juliet effect is the idea that parental opposition intensifies romantic love, a claim that later studies barely support.
How the Romeo and Juliet Effect WorksRosy retrospection
Rosy retrospection is the tendency of memory to rate the past more favorably than it was rated while it was happening.
What Is Rosy RetrospectionS
Speed dating
Speed dating is a format in which people talk in pairs for a few minutes, then switch tables, marking yes or no after each conversation.
Who invented speed datingStrange Situation
The Strange Situation is Mary Ainsworth's lab procedure in which a mother briefly leaves her one-year-old and returns, used to assess attachment.
What a child does when Mom leavesT
Trust game
The trust game is an experiment in which one player sends money to a stranger, the sum is tripled, and the stranger decides how much to return.
How Much Money Would You Trust to a Stranger